I know I sometimes send guys mixed signals. But has ANYONE ever considered that part of the problem is you are jumping to conclusions? My signals may be completely clear and straightforward, but you're so quick to assume what I want that you draw completely different meanings behind my actions/words. that's where things get mixed.

I won't get into the entirety of relationships between men & women because this post will end up being a thesis paper. I just wanna explore WHY we limit ourselves to such defined boxes. A guy and girl meet each other, it's automatic attempt-to-sleep-together-or-not. There's very rarely let's-wait-and-see-what-we-want-over-time. Guy and girl realize they wanna sleep together, it automatically has to be put into Actual Relationship or Casual Sex. They [one or both of them] realize they don't want to sleep together and certain topics, certain kinds of interactions are immediately "off limits." There is NO room for any inbetween. How obnoxious...

I am a very open person. I won't run away from nor avoid certain topics because I "might get misinterpreted." Especially if I'm very clear in letting it be known that just because I say it doesn't mean I'm vying to make it happen. I don't lie about nor deny attraction between myself and others because we're "not supposed to" have it. Being attracted doesn't mean we need to act on it, nor does it mean I no longer wish to be friends. I just feel it's better to be honest and clear, but we CAN still have a relationship in which we know our parameters.

I'm getting increasingly annoyed at having to "play the game" [I'm also getting increasingly annoyed at my use of quotations in this post... but everything regarding this seems so stupid and superficial to me, it deserves quotations] because people don't know how to break free of these societal constraints. I'm telling you in very clear terms what I want and what I'm looking for. I have asked you if YOU are uncomfortable or concerned with your own feelings and gotten, quite emphatically, "no, not at all. this is awesome. i love the way you think/move," yet I still get this lameness and awkwardness surrounding a lot of things.

this is something i will say a million times, but i really wish i could totally deconstruct then rebuild people's realities. unlearn everything you've been taught, especially about relationships, then we all build our OWN realities of what's okay, what's expected, etc. and, at that point, all that is required is understanding and respect of each others' realities. what works for you may not work for me -- doesn't mean you're wrong, just means our relationship should be limited to what works for both of us.

damn. sounds so simple when i say it.